June 20, 2006

• "Upon browsing the book section at my local Wal Mart, I came across a title that caught my eye ~ Approval Addiction:  Overcoming Your Need To Please Everyone

                                                           by Joyce Meyer...

  So today, I am taking the liberty to supply an excerpt from this book...~V~

   

  "There is an epidemic of insecurity in our society today.  Many people are insecure and feel bad about themselves, which steals their joy and causes major problems in all their relationships.

       I know the effect insecurity can have on the lives because I experienced it myself.  I know what it does to a person.  Those who have been hurt badly through abuse or severe rejection, as I have, often seek the approval of others to try to overcome their feelings of rejection and low self-esteem.  They suffer from those feelings and use the addiction of approval to try to remove the pain.  They are miserable if anyone seems to not approve of them in any way or for any reason and they are anxious about the disapproval until they feel they are once again accepted.  They may do almost anything to gain the approval they feel they have lost - even things their conscience tells them are wrong.  For example, if a person is met with disapproval when she declines an invitation, she might change her plans and accept the invitation just to gain approval.  She compromises herself for the sake of feeling approved.

       An addiction is something that controls people -- something they cannot do without or something they do to alleviate pain or pressure.  It is what people run to when they are hurting or feel lonely.  It comes in many varities, such as drugs, alcohol, gambling, sex, shopping, eating, work -- and yes, even approval.  Like any addict, insecure people look for a "fix" when they get shaky.  They need someone to reaffirm them and assure them everything is all right and they are acceptable.  When a person has an addiction the things they are addicted to are on their mind most of the time.  Therefore, if a person is an approval addict, he or she will have an abnormal concern and an abundance of thoughts about what people think of them.

       The good news is that none of us has to suffer with insecurity; there is a cure for the approval addiction.  God says we can be secure.  That means we are free to be ourselves and become all we can be in Him."

   

  from the Introduction ~ Approval Addiction ~ Joyce Meyer

   

  for those so inclined, see Ephesians 3:17 ~V~

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